Sailing offers wonderful metaphors for marriage. If the two of you are sailors, why not get married on a boat and use those metaphors to buoy your marriage?

In addition there is a whole wonderful list of things about a wedding on a sailboat. This means, of course, that there are also a bunch of things that are not true about a wedding on a sailboat. So you have to weigh all of these things to decide if this is right for you.

Sailboat weddings are:

Small: Most sailboats, even big sailboats, are not going to handle more than 25 and many of them will handle fewer than that. So you need to be clear that a small wedding is what you want to have. And while small weddings are wonderful, they are more intimate, because you are able to see people’s reactions to the things you share. Metaphor: Life is a journey on which you set out, with only a few of those nearest and dearest. It is in their company that you enjoy the sunsets and weather the storms. No one moment is the same as the next, however repetitive the tasks.

Moving: Even if you drop sail while you’re marrying, the boat is riding the water. The boat rocks and dances in the water. Your guests need to be able to be comfortable in that situation. Some of your grandparents may not make it on the boat. Is that all right with you? Metaphor: Life is not smooth. Your footing is not always solid. But the scenery is amazing.

Work: Someone will have to sail the boat. You may want to hire someone or you may want to do it yourself. (You always want to have someone else in charge while you’re getting married.) It’s a good idea to pay attention as you make your wedding vows! Metaphor: The mechanics of sailing take attention and you need to learn the basics. Once you get good at it, the sailing and marriage are fun. And there will still be rough seas and long periods of calm. Part of the work is learning patience and teamwork.

Moderate: The meal will not be fancy, there’s not going to be a lot of booze, and the dance floor is pretty small. Metaphor: most of life is about the small moments. You want to learn to celebrate those things because that will keep you going between the big moments and when the little moments are difficult.

Informal:  Sailboats are difficult places to wear tuxes and long gowns. You need to wear sensible shoes and you want warm clothes in case the wind kicks up. And sunscreen: you always want sunscreen, shades and probably a hat! Metaphor: Most of marriage isn’t glamorous. It’s fun to have those moments, but it’s great to enjoy the dailiness of life.

You make choices when you have a sailboat wedding that preclude other choices. But you can choose to exchange your wedding vows during an intimate wedding ceremony on the water and come back to a reception on the shore, if that’s what you want. Or you may just want to have a meal with your small group and consider yourself ready to embark on marital waters in a daring but sturdy boat of love.

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